By Barbara Morris, R. Ph.
A December 1, 2008 online The Wall Street
Journal article, "Retiree Havens Turn Younger to Combat the Housing Bust"
reveals that retirement communities are feeling the pressure of the collapsing
economy. To deal with vacancies and unsold homes, some communities, to the
dismay of residents, are considering age desegregation -- lowering the age of
entry to 45 in order to attract new occupants. Resident displeasure is
understandable because when you choose to move into a quiet structured
community, you don't want families with kids or teenagers running around
disturbing your lifestyle.
Having said that . . .
I have made no
effort to conceal my disdain for retirement communities. Created by
entrepreneurial home builders, they are attractive artificial contrivances
designed to appeal to the the desire of people who prefer peace, quiet and an
upscale place to spend the end of life. Basically, they are a lure for old
people to to play and decay. But that's okay. We still have the right to live
how and where we choose and I am thankful for that.
Did I say they are
places to decay? How can I say that! Retirement communities abound with things
to do. Golf, basket weaving, hiking, swimming, bingo, dancing, scrap booking,
biking. Even college courses for those who want to exercise what's left of their
brains. You name it -- most retirement communities have every activity you could
possibly ask for. And perhaps even an unexpected "bonus." For example, "The
Villages" in Florida would have you believe it's Heaven on earth. What isn't
mentioned in inviting TV ads is the existence of rampant sexually transmitted
diseases in the community. See "STDs Running
Rampant In Retirement Community" To be fair, given what's happening in the
culture as a whole, one can only say, "so what else is new."
What is
unfortunate is that so many people get sucked into the lifestyle without
realizing what they are getting into, and it's easy to understand why people do
it. When you've worked all your adult life and you are worn out at 65 or sooner,
a socially sanctioned retirement community appeals to your leisure- loving human
nature.
Right about now you are probably saying that only a cranky old
grouch would say anything negative about retirement communities. Okay, I hear
you -- chastisement accepted. But it doesn't change my views about retirement
communities and here is why:
I don't care who you are -- nobody wants to
get old and suffer premature decline. Anyone with a brain larger than a peach
pit realizes you can't be young for ever, (nor would most people wish to be
young forever) but you can be ageless. You can be strong, mentally and
physically. You can be independent. You can be an asset to yourself and to
others. You achieve that state of nirvana not by living a sheltered decline
oriented lifestyle, but by staying in the real world, being productive, and
dealing with all kinds of people with real world issues.
I have said it
repeatedly: We learn from those we associate with most closely. We adopt each
other's beliefs, attitudes and behaviors. When you surround yourself with and
interact with people primarily your own age and retirement oriented
circumstances, you all but negate your ability to grow.
Traditional
retirement, (except in certain health related circumstances) is a crock. We are
made for work, like it or not. I don't like the cliché "use it or lose it" but
it's true. Humans do best when they are engaged in something that has value not
just for themselves, but for others.
Before the creation of Social
Security in the 1930s, people didn't retire. At that time, people didn't live
much longer than age 65 so the establishment of a retirement age of 65 made a
modicum of sense. But now, retirement at 65 makes no sense at all because the
lifespan has increased by 30 years in the past century. Yet people still retire
at age 65 and usually opt into the traditional, decline oriented senior
lifestyle. And that often includes moving into a retirement community where
youth is an illusion. You can do all the "youthful" activities you like, but
when you do them with the same-age people all the time, personalities and
preferences meld into the lowest common denominator.
I feel sorry for
people who moved into a retirement community for peace, quiet and camaraderie of
other old people, and are now facing the specter of young faces, activities and
noises. It's too bad that financial realities are breaking down the age barrier
to these communities. But I can't help but wonder: What 45 year old in his or
her right mind would want to move into a retirement community? I imagine the
incentive would have to be the financial deal of a lifetime, like getting a
house for free. And maybe that is what it will come to. The way things are going
now, the government will own everything and we'll each be given according to our
needs. Now, where did I hear that idea before?
